Am I in an abusive relationship how I can I end it?

Oh Marie, you are most definitely in an abusive relationship. You should leave now. When he can't do anything about it. And while you have the strength to do it. He does sound like he has good sides, but so do most murderers. Leave now, change everything you said. Change anything he could use to track you down, because believe me, he will. You shouldn't feel like it's your fault he joined the military. Ultimately, it was his decision. And you will find a guy that will "put up" with you. But sweetheart, he's not gonna think he's putting up with you; he's gonna think he's the luckiest guy in the world being with you! You're extremely lucky you saw the warning signs, most girls never do. That's why we ending up watching what we do on the news. And you're not overreacting; always trust your instinct. If your mind thinks for a split second that he'd be capable of doing something like this, then he is. Get out now, for yourself. Otherwise, if you think about it some more, you'll find reasons and convince yourself that he's not that bad. If you wait for him, he'll convince he's not that bad. And when he can't, you're both in trouble =/